The Power in Doing Hard Things

Compassion means empathizing with another's suffering and genuinely wanting to help ease their pain. Yet we must face a profound truth: we cannot truly lessen anyone else's suffering. When we witness others in pain, we suffer alongside them, and our desperate desire to stop their suffering often stems from wanting to ease our own discomfort.

As a mother, I watch my children navigate life's journey, experiencing highs and lows. My instinct is to shield them from the pain they encounter in those low moments. But I've learned the hard way that this isn't my role as their mother. Instead, my purpose is to stand steady in support, creating a safe space where they can fully experience and move through their suffering.

Suffering, though difficult, is often our most powerful catalyst for transformation. If I were to try to prevent someone else's suffering, I would deny them the experiences that could propel them forward in their growth. Paradoxically, as I witness their struggles and feel my pain in response, I, too, am transformed. The challenge of watching loved ones go through difficult times has become part of my journey of self-discovery.

Suffering isn't optional—it's transformative. Through these challenging moments, both the sufferer and the witness find paths to deeper understanding and growth.